If there's one thing I've learned over the course of these last few months it's that relationships are HARD WORK!!!! They definitly don't happen overnight and while each day you find a new reason to love your partner you also learn some things about them, that you might not like so much, so how do you decide what outweighs the good verses the bad and does every blowout mean we need a break? Or is this just another bump in the road to show us that the love you have for one another can whether even the roughest of times?
We all know from experience that no man or woman, nor any relationship is the fantasy we dream up in our minds and this is why relationships need unconditional love,communication,understanding and respect without these four things we can find ourselves lost in our current relationships. Not knowing how to find a way back to make it all right again. If you're going through it with your partner and have already drove your friends crazy asking for their advice dgrouponline has posted up their Top 10 Reasons to End Your Relationship. I say if you can get through the list and say yes to atleast 4 to 5 things it may be time to call it Splitsville.
But......Like the character Charlotte from Sex and The City I always choose to believe in Love but only you can make the final call! xoxo Jen The Pen
“I can’t take it any more.”
That’s usually the last thought that runs through someone’s mind right before they decide to officially end a relationship. But what ultimately drives a person to that point? While each situation is unique in its own right, there are some common factors that can force us all to finally say that enough is enough. Let’s discuss this further with Dgrouponline's “Top Ten Reasons To End Your Relationship.”
1. Falling Out Of Love
In many ways, your relationship mirrors the career of Arsenio Hall. Both started off very promising, only to fizzle out into nothing more than unfulfilled potential. You were once so in love, but now the thrill is definitely gone. There could be countless factors that contributed to you falling out of love, but all of that is now irrelevant…it’s time to say goodbye.
During the early stages of your relationship, it seemed like the two of you were equal partners. But as time progressed and things began to change, you started to feel more disrespected than the Constitution after the 2000 Presidential Election. What’s the point of even being in the relationship if they aren’t going to respect you? I’ll let you answer that…
3. I Just Want To Be Free
On several occasions, free-falling pop star Britney Spears was caught out in public without her underwear. And while this caused her a significant amount of embarrassment, you secretly understood where she was coming from. You see, we all just want to be free from time to time. You can’t really explain why you have this deep-seated desire to be free from commitment…you just know that’s what you need in your life right now. So as long as you’re open and honest about why you’re ending the relationship, then I have absolutely no problem with you making this declaration of independence.
4. Funny Money
You once said that you would never allow finances to get in the way of true love. But that was before you realized that your significant other manages money about as well as T.I. does the terms of his probation. If you don’t want to spend the rest of your life being slowly killed by the stress of financial insecurity, then you may want to get out while you still can.
5. No Communication
Good communication serves as the cornerstone of any successful relationship. So the fact that the two of you don’t talk to each other very much doesn’t bode well for the long term success of your union. In fact, R. Kelly probably has a better chance at being elected PTA president than you have at being truly happy in a relationship where the communication is non-existent.
6. Spiritual Direction
The importance of connecting on a spiritual level can never be undervalued. In my experience, it’s an absolute must. Now I’m sure there are many cases of people that are able to coexist in a relationship while being on completely different spiritual wavelengths…I just wouldn’t advise it. In fact, I’d rather use Jessica Simpson as my phone-a-friend option on “Who Wants To Be A Millionaire,” than to have you stay in a relationship that lacks a spiritual connection.
7. Substance Abuse
It’s hard to imagine the love of your life ever succumbing to some form of addiction. And while your first play should always be to support them in their efforts to overcome such a huge obstacle, there is only so much that a person can take. This all reminds me of when Jermaine Jackson’s wife Hazel divorced him after 14 years of marriage…maybe she could no longer deal with his ongoing addiction to hair grease. Who knows? Only you know what you can bear.
8. You’ve Been Abused
No one deserves to be abused. Whether it’s physical, mental or emotional, your significant other has no right to subject you to that. When you’re “in love,” it’s easy to try and justify their behavior, but you should demand better treatment from someone that wants to be with you. I think it’s time for you to kick them to the curb. (No humor needed for that one. I need you to take it straight, no chaser.)
9. Meet My Needs
Once upon a time, all of your needs were being met in this relationship. Your mind, body, and soul were all equally stimulated, and you honestly couldn’t remember the last time you had been so happy. Those were the days…Now it feels like Michael Richards and the NAACP have more chemistry than the two of you. That can’t be a good feeling…
10. Can’t Shake The Past
Some things from the past aren’t easy to overcome; whether it’s abandonment issues, a broken heart, or you still being hung up on a former love. Whatever the case may be, if it hasn’t been properly dealt with, then it will undoubtedly impact your current relationship in a negative way. Sometimes it’s better to just walk away until you’re able to fully get over the past. (That’s probably why Halle Berry and I didn’t work out…I just couldn’t get over how bad the movie Catwoman was. It eventually tore us apart…)
The Fly Guy Moral:
Now that you’ve been given the facts, it’s time to ask yourself the following question: “Does any of this sound like what I’m currently going through?” If so, then it may be time for you to make a change. Now I would never try to break up a happy home, but if today’s column forced you to take a long, hard look at your current situation, then were you really happy to begin with? Think about it…